Kuwonongeka kwa madera athu a pa intaneti komanso amthupi komanso kuopa zomwe tsogolo litichitira poyang'anizana ndi kusintha kosasinthika kwa nyengo komwe timawona.
masiku ano nthawi zina zimatha kuwononga thanzi lathu lamalingaliro. Padziko lonse lapansi, maboma akupitiriza kupereka ndalama zothandizira mafuta opangira mafuta ngakhale kuti pali vuto
zotsatira za kusintha kwa nyengo.
Anthu padziko lonse lapansi achotsedwa kale m'nyumba zawo chifukwa cha masoka okhudzana ndi nyengo ndipo izi zimasiya tonsefe kukhala ndi nkhawa; za
tokha koma makamaka chifukwa cha chitetezo ndi ubwino wa ena.
Makolo nawonso amakakamizidwa kwambiri kuti aphunzitse ana awo kukhala nzika zozindikira komanso kusamalira chilengedwe. Izi ndikuwonjezera kudandaula
nkhawa achinyamata ndi maganizo.
Pogwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti masiku ano, chiwerengero cha anthu omwe amawopa kulephera, makamaka pa ntchito zawo zosankhidwa, ndichokwera kwambiri kuposa kale lonse; sikovuta kuona zimenezo
njira ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa kuti muchepetse kukhumudwa nthawi zikafika povuta. Apa ndipamene kukhazikika maganizo kumadza.
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Kukhala wosasunthika m'maganizo kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto anu modekha ndikuchira msanga pazovuta zilizonse panjira yanu. Kaya mabampu awa ali
zazing'ono (monga kupeza chindapusa choyimitsa magalimoto kapena kusapeza ntchito yomwe mukufuna) kapena zoopsa kwambiri (mphepo zamkuntho kapena zigawenga), nazi njira zosavuta
mutha kulimbikitsa kulimba mtima kwanu kuti muthane bwino ndi zovuta:
1. Dziwani kuti simungathe kulamulira chilichonse.
Imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungalimbitsire kutsimikiza mtima kwanu ndikukhala bwino posankha ndewu zanu. Katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo a Donald
Robertson, yemwe ndi katswiri wa ubale pakati pa filosofi, maganizo ndi kudzikweza, m'buku lake lakuti Stoicsm and the Art of Happiness, akutsimikizira kuti
kuti ndikofunikira kudziwa zomwe mungathe kuzilamulira ndi zomwe simungathe, popeza chinthu chokha chomwe mumatha kuwongolera ndi malingaliro anu mwadala. Zonse za dziko
mavuto si anu kuwathetsa ndipo moona, simungathe kuwalamulira onse ngakhale mutafuna. Ngati mungathe kusiyanitsa zinthu zomwe mungathe
kuwongolera ndi zinthu zomwe simungathe, mutha kuwonetsetsa kuti mphamvu zanu ndi kufunitsitsa kwanu sikungowonongeka pazomaliza.
Ganizirani pa zomwe mungathe kuzilamulira, osati zomwe simungathe.
Choonadi chosavuta chomwe muyenera kukumbukira ndi chakuti m'moyo, mudzakumana ndi zovuta, palibe njira yochitira zimenezo. Mutha kukhala ndi mausiku angapo pomwe simungathe
kugona chifukwa cha nkhawa imodzi kapena inayo. Chinyengo apa ndikuti musataye tulo tambiri pa zinthu zomwe simungathe kuzithetsa. Chinthu chimodzi chomwe mungathe kulamulira nthawi zonse ndi
yankho lanu ku zochitika m'moyo wanu ndipo zili bwino.
Choncho mukaona kuti mukuda nkhawa ndi zinthu zambiri nthawi imodzi, siyani kuganizira za udindo wanu wothetsa vutolo. Ngakhale kumene simungathe kupereka chokhalitsa
mayankho chifukwa mulibe chikoka chaching'ono - kunena za moto wa Amazon, Brexit komanso mkangano waku Syria - nthawi zambiri pamakhala vuto lomwe mutha kuthana nalo.
moyo wanu kuti zinthu zikhale bwinoko pang'ono, ngakhale simungathe mwachindunji kuthetsa mavuto aakulu, padziko lonse. Mwachitsanzo, ganizirani zinthu zomwe mungathe kuzilamulira monga
kukhazikitsa zolimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku ngati mukufuna kuchepetsa thupi, kapena kunyamula ziro zinyalala ngati mukufuna kupewa pulasitiki ntchito kamodzi.
2. Pangani kuyamika patsogolo.
Kuyamikira ndi kutengeka maganizo kwa munthu ndipo kumatanthauza kuyamikira. Amatanthauzidwa ngati kuyamikira kwambiri munthu (kapena chinachake) chomwe
zimapanga positivity yokhalitsa.
Kuyamikira ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino, chifukwa zidzakuthandizani kuti musamachite zinthu moyenera, ngakhale panthawi zovuta kwambiri.
nthawi zovuta. Mukamayesetsa kuyamikira nthawi zonse, mudzakhala ndi malingaliro abwino, kumva kuti muli ndi moyo, kugona bwino, ndi kufotokoza zambiri
chifundo kwa ena. Mudzathanso kuletsa maganizo oipa monga nsanje, kapena mkwiyo. Kuyamikira kunawonetsedwa kukhala psychotherapeutic mu
kafukufuku wotchuka wa Yale wolembedwa ndi Robert A. Emmons ndi Robin Stern chifukwa cha machiritso ake pamalingaliro amunthu.
Kotero pamene mukumva ngati kuti kulemera kwa dziko kuli pa mapewa anu khalani ndi nthawi ndikusinkhasinkha zomwe mukuthokoza. Simukuyenera kusungitsa izi
pazochitika zazikulu zokha. Mutha kuthokoza chifukwa cha kukwezedwa kuntchito, koma muthanso kuthokoza chifukwa chokhala padenga pamutu panu kapena chakudya chomwe mumapeza.
anali ndi chakudya chamasana.
3. Chitani zomwe simukuzidziwa bwino.
Pali makampani onse odzitukumula omwe akukuuzani kuti muziyang'ana zomwe mumachita bwino ndikugawira wina aliyense. Monga mkulu wa asilikali
mfundo, njira iyi ili ndi maubwino ambiri, imodzi mwazo ndikuti timatha kukhala osangalala komanso kuchita bwino kwambiri tikangoyang'ana kwambiri.
zomwe timachita bwino. Koma kungoyang’ana pa zimene mukuchita bwino sikungathandize kwambiri pankhani yolimbikitsa maganizo anu. Kafukufuku wofufuza wa momwe zingakhalire
gwero lachilimbikitso ndi magwiridwe antchito, mwachitsanzo, likuwonetsa kuti anthu akazindikira nkhawa yomwe amamva ndi vuto kapena cholinga chatsopano, amakhala ochulukirapo.
mwachiwonekere kulimbikira pa ntchito yawo, ndi kupeza chikhutiro chokulirapo pa ntchitoyo.
Mosiyana ndi izi, nthawi zambiri simufunika kulimbikira kuti mugwire ntchito ngati mukuichita bwino. Kumene mphamvu zanu zenizeni zimayesedwa kwambiri ndizochitika
kunja kwa malo anu otonthoza; kotero kutuluka kunja kwa bwalo kamodzi pakapita nthawi kudzakuthandizani kulimba mtima kwanu. M'buku lakeFikiraniPulofesa wa
khalidwe la bungwe ku yunivesite ya Brandeis International Business School ndi katswiri wa khalidwe mu bizinesi,Andy Molinskyakufotokoza zimenezo
potuluka kunja kwa malo athu otonthoza, timatha kutenga mwayi, kutsegula zina zambiri zatsopano ndikupeza zinthu zokhudza ifeyo zomwe sitikanakhala nazo.
zinapezeka.
Izi zitha kukhala zophweka ngati kuyankhula ndi munthu wopanda pokhala kapena mantha ngati kudzipereka ngati wokamba nkhani paulendo wotsatira wa nyengo mdera lanu, ngakhale
chikhalidwe chanu chamanyazi. Chofunikira kwambiri apa ndikuti mukamachita nthawi zina zinthu zomwe simukuzidziwa bwino, mudzawona zofooka zanu momveka bwino kuti
mutha kusintha zofunikira pamalingaliro anu ndikugwira ntchito pakukulitsa luso lanu. Zonsezi zidzalimbitsa mphamvu yanu yamaganizo kwambiri
4. Yesetsani kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse.
Malingaliro, monga thupi, amafunika kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse kuti akhalebe ozindikira komanso ogwirizana. Kulimba kwamalingaliro kuli ngati minofu, imayenera kugwiritsiridwa ntchito
kukula ndi chitukuko ndipo njira yachangu yofikira kumeneko ndi kuchita. Tsopano palibe chikayikiro chochepa kuti mikhalidwe yoipitsitsa yomwe timakumana nayo imayesa kulimba mtima kwathu ndi malingaliro athu
tsimikizani koma simuyenera kulola kuti zinthu zifike poipitsitsa.
Samalani ndi zochitika zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo yesetsani kulimbitsa maganizo anu ndi iwo.Ndi njira yomwe imaphatikizapo kuzindikira zochitika zomwe
kumabweretsa kupsinjika kwamalingaliro kapena nkhawa, kusiya malingaliro ndi malingaliro omwe amatsogolera ku izimaganizo oipa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito maganizo athanzi kusintha
malingaliro opotoka omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala kumbuyo kwa malingaliro awa.
Nthawi yotumiza: May-08-2021